As I sit here on my comfy couch (with no back cushions because of the dogs) listening to the wind howl at my windows I realize how lucky I am. My husband is in the other room holding my baby until he falls asleep. After he had a long day of work, he cooked me dinner, played with Holden, gave him a bath and is now putting him to sleep. Granted, I didn't exactly have an uneventful day but I do realize how lucky I am to have a husband like that. I know many aren't.

Even so, I still get cranky (we both do). Even though I know how good a job he does and tell him so we still both have our moments almost every day where we get cranky with each other. He bitches that I don't like to sweep up the pile of dirt after I sweep the floor (hard to bend over like that when preggo). And I bitch that there are always dishes in our sink no matter how many times I run the dishwasher during the day. Of course these are trifles, but I guess we don't have anything big to fight about at the moment. Although I do think that after awhile even the small stuff tends to get to you if you don't have a break.

I guess what I'm wondering is, aside from getting a housekeeper is how are chores divided at your house? I think in some ways it is all about how you grew up. My dad did most things at my house...well all things since he was a single parent, and Tony's mom did everything since she was a single parent. So we both grew up watching the opposite role do all the work. Thankfully we tend to fall into easy roles, except for a few minor exceptions: scrubbing the bathtub, taking out the trash, and occasionally the dishes. The only reason the dishes get thrown in there is because when men cook apparently they use EVERY SINGLE dish in the house. How this is possible I do not know. Perhaps all the professional great male cooks just have dishwashers (as in people) to do their dirty work for them so it doesn't matter how many dishes they dirty. In any case I dislike doing dishes after my wonderful husband uses the kitchen. Even with a brand new dishwasher it is still a major chore.

And then with the trash all I think is: It's a man's job to take out the trash. Don't ask me where I got this notion, I really have no idea. Maybe it's because I can't recall having to take out the trash at all until after I reached the age of 18. Maybe I did it, but I sure don't remember having to do so.

So anyway, after almost 4 years of marriage these are the chore sticking points that have remained. We usually trade off on the scrubbing the shower but when I'm pregnant I have a good excuse not to do it--the fumes and bending over like that. :) But that excuse can only last so long and I will be back to it again.

I can't complain too much because my two sweet boys are sleeping peacefully in the other room and I didn't have to do a thing. It's nice to have such a good husband.

"bare" with me

So I'm wondering about the current economy and, well, lady business. I'm giving fair warning that since this is my blog you're just going to have to bear with me here if you don't like the topic. Or you can just not read this particular one. Either way I have been mulling this over in my head for at least a few months so I had to write about it.

I know a few ladies out there who like it...well lets just say bare. So my question is if a Brazilian wax costs at least $60 a month to maintain how can you really justify over $700 a year on that kind of...maintenance? Painful, expensive, and pardon me but according to at least a few men I know--totally unnecessary.

I have certainly always been a fan of other painless and cheap methods of hair removal. I do have to say that I think wax is the way to go on the eyebrows. You can't get a clean line without waxing (in my opinion) your eyebrows. But really, seriously...is anyone inspecting that closely down there? And if anyone is thisclose the lights are off--or at least dim, right? RIGHT?

So what's the current obsession with looking like a prepubescent girl? I'm not saying I think we should go back to the 60's or 70's as far as hair growth goes but I am a frugal woman and this topic just blows my mind.

Save your money and buy a razor, ladies.

Pacifier addict

So my sweet little boy finally (and I mean FINALLY) started sleeping through the night a couple weeks ago. He still occasionally wakes up at night but for the most part has been sleeping all the way through (yay!). So I thought I would talk a little bit about being a NEW mommy and sleeping (or not sleeping as the case may be).

One of the most difficult things I found about being a new mommy back almost a year ago was that when I actually was able to get to sleep for literally only 45 minutes at a time I would wake up in a sheer panic or have dreams that my baby was suffocating in bed with me (I never slept with him when he was under 5 months old). And if by some miracle my mother in law had time to stay overnight and stay with him for a few hours so I could sleep, I would wake up in so much pain from being engorged that I would want to get up to feed him. But all you new mommies, it does get better and I can't say when you will get a full nights sleep but you will stop waking up panicked eventually.

Lucky for me next time I'm bottle feeding from the very beginning so woo hoo! I will have Tony switch off and on nights with me. At least for the first couple weeks.

Also, in other news little baby girl Jacobsen has started moving around alot lately.

I can't write more right now, but I will leave you with a picture of my little pacifier addict in his crib.

Sorry for the delay

Sorry that I haven't posted on here in 2 1/2 weeks but I had a small problem with my laptop after I spilled juice all over it. Luckily since we bought the "insurance" at best buy it was all covered to replace the keyboard. But it took 2 weeks. And then I took half a week to get there and pick it up. So hopefully I didn't lose all my readers by now. :) All three of you.

Chemistry

Okay, so was anyone really surprised by the Bachelor season finale last night? I wasn't. It was completely obvious that he had waaay more chemistry with Molly. So why did he choose Melissa first? I think it was because he wanted to be 'safe' since he got divorced the first time he was married. But the safe choice isn't always the good choice.
Is there a part of me that wanted Molly to tell him to go to hell when he asked her to take him back? Yes. But then again I am kind of a romantic and so I thought it was cute that she said she would discuss it with him.
If you don't watch the bachelor that wouldn't have made sense to you, but not much more is going on around here. I have a new friend and that's where I watched it last night, and she is a stay at home mom with one kid and one dog. And her house was very very clean. It made me feel quite guilty actually because Tony walked in last night to muddy dogprints all over the floor (in my defense I did mop, it was just a losing battle yesterday), and he also walked in to toys strewn about the living room. And I left almost immediately after he got home so that I could watch the bachelor at a friend's house.
I do think it would be easier on everyone if we would just crack down and get the entire house babyproofed. My only excuse is that we have been busy. I think I'm going to make sure something gets babyproofed today. Holden just laughs when I tell him no. I know he knows what it means and I fear that I have a long and harrowing couple of years ahead of me trying to keep him out of trouble.
So today I have been trying to clean my house, but don't really feel like I'm getting very far. Hopefully it will be a noticeable difference by the end of the day.

Babies & Juice

Ok, let me preface this by saying I don't really think you should give kids juice. And then I will tell you why I did today. I don't think you should give kids juice because it isn't as healthy as water and has lots of calories. If you are going to ingest calories I do believe that they should be solid food (like fruit instead of juice). And also, I spilled juice on my computer keyboard today because I was trying to bribe Holden into drinking from a cup. So now my right enter and shift keys are sticky. Since my hubby works in electronics and we also have that stupid $250 "insurance" from best buy for our laptop I'm not terribly concerned about it, but it is annoying to have my keyboard smell like V8 V-fusion. I'm probably making it worse by typing. I promise though, after this I'm shutting down the computer and not using it until the keyboard is clean again.
I also wanted to say congrats to Amanda, I know she reads this blog sometimes and I'd like to welcome little Baby "G" to the world (that's obviously not his name but I don't know if she wants him all over the worldwide web)! I know you probably won't be checking this because you will be incredibly sleep deprived and all you want to do when you're not feeding the little guy is fall into bed and catch an hour of uninterrupted sleep. I feel your pain.
Okay, signing off for now, I may or may not have a good keyboard tomorrow so we'll see if I'm around. I hope you all take the time to enjoy the season finale of 'The Bachelor' tonight! I know I will (guilty pleasure).

2000

Last night we went out with a bunch of people we graduated with (WH and I graduated in the same class but are not high school sweethearts). It was so much fun even though I couldn't drink or anyting. It's always nice to catch up.

I did notice how much older we are now! No one wanted to stay up past closing and most of us barely made it that long! I think WH was really the only one who could have stayed out longer because just as a general rule he is always the last to leave a party. I'm posting a pic of me and a few of my old friends. There were more there, but I'm following my good picture rule and this is one of the better ones.